Making decisions can be hard, particularly so if you’re not used to making them or if you don’t really have a preference in the things you are being asked to decide. Decide anyways. Think about what is actually happening beneath the question you’re being asked by your sub and make a decision. Formulate reasons for your decision and explain them. In the end, whichever thing you chose may not make any real difference, but the level of thought and consideration you put into the choice, and the time and attention you devoted to making this decision, will absolutely make all the difference in the world.
@misty-girl loves to feel the tug of the leash. She wants to know that she has my attention. She likes to think about the choices that I make and draw lessons from them about the kind of person that I am and about the way I think. When I make choices for her, I’m doing more than deciding what she’s going to wear or what she’s going to have for lunch, I’m telling her about her place in my life and about my personal preferences. In addition, she wants to be freed from the burden of choice and given direction as to how I would like her to serve. To her, there is no such thing as a small decision.
As a Dom, when you’re asked to make a decision, the first thing to realize is that being asked to choose is a demonstration of trust. You’re being entrusted with someone’s power to choose - they are handing it to you because they trust that you’re going to use it wisely. Do not disappoint them, and do not take this act lightly.
The second thing to realize is that this is an act of respect. They are demonstrating that they acknowledge your place in their life and they deem you worthy of this position. Being thoughtful, judicious, and considerate reaffirms this faith that they’ve placed in you and strengthens the bond between you and your sub.
The third thing to realize is that they are craving your leadership and your presence. They want to feel connected to you, and allowing you to make these decisions allows them to feel your guiding hand in even the most mundane corners of their existence. True dominance neither begins nor ends in the bedroom.
Fourth, your submissive wants to feel owned. They want to feel that they are your prized possession and that you care about every part of their life. They want to know that what happens to them matters to you, and what better way to demonstrate this than by making informed decisions on even the most inane aspects of their existence?
Fifth, your submissive is watching you and listening to you in all things. They want to know you inside and out. They want to know what you like, what you dislike, how you go about making your decisions, and what things you consider important. All of these things help them to find ways to serve you and gives them a greater idea of the vision you have for them and for your relationship.
Do not ever treat any decision as a small decision, and don’t overlook the value and importance of the day-to-day choices you’re allowed to make. There is so much going on beneath the surface, and keeping your focus on the little things ensures that you don’t miss the big ones. After all, how could be entrusted with the really important choices when you can’t be bothered with the seemingly unimportant ones? When they hand you the leash, use it. The worst thing you could ever do is to set it down.